Ever heard the saying, “If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again”? What am I saying, of course you did! And so did I. And that’s all it was; a saying. A nice little phrase people said to each other to make themselves feel better.
Or at least that’s what I thought for a very long time. It took a lot of sleepless nights, painful experiences and tears for me to finally pursue my dream till I literally had no other option, because I really didn’t. I was at “rock bottom” with no options.
I’m not encouraging anyone to lower their standards or throw away their morals, but for me, that was a privilege I couldn’t afford! I did what I had to do to make it! Am I proud of it? No! Do I regret it? Maybe…
But that’s just it. It’s life. In the end, the decisions we make, the choices we make, none of it will matter. It won’t matter if you were a billionaire, if you were famous or respected. You have to understand that in the end, it’s your life! You have to live with the consequences.
Too many people live life blaming others. “If it’s wasn’t for this person, or that thing…” we don’t own up to things. Yes, sometimes we’re dealt a bad hand, and so what? It’s up to you to make the most of what you’ve been given. It’s not fair, I’m sorry you think it was meant to be.
I’m sure we’ve all heard of the great stories of people not giving up, chasing their dreams, being determined and all that crap. But do we hear the ugly sides? The bad things people did to attain the good? No! Don’t beat yourself up for being human. We break, we cower, we fall!
A few months ago I just got out of prison. I was arrested for “stealing”. I served the full 4 year sentence, no parole. I wanted some money for a project I knew would change my life forever. I was desperate, like many of you will be one day.
Funny enough, that “easy way out” was an easy way in; into jail. I would have had the money to invest, to start my businesses and all, but that’s just it, that easy way out is never as easy as it seems. Some may say I just wasn’t smart enough that’s why I got caught.
And a lot of you face similar challenges. Some are tempted to get their hands on a few extra bucks to make things happen, others are tempted the possibility of a handout in return for some kind of service. Selling your soul or selling yourself seems like a good price to pay until you realize the actual cost of what it is you’re paying.
I’m actually glad I got caught. During those years in prison I had enough time to do a lot of introspection. I was fortunate they provided a lot of useful reading material as well. I read about the stories of the like of Les Brown, Jack Ma and a couple others. I knew that if they made it through perseverance, anyone could too!
So soon as I got I went for it! I mean seriously now, Jack Ma’s story cracks me up. How do 24 people go for a job at KFC and only one person doesn’t get accepted? It was hilarious. But the beauty of all these stories is, as sure as death and taxes, if you try one more time you’ll eventually succeed.
I have my own Gym now, a fleet of cabs, a chain of restaurants all over Atlanta and I’m just getting started. For some people it takes a day, others a week, month, year or decade. We’re not all on the same path, nor are we even in the same race.
Whatever you may want to achieve is possible! You don’t have to try and find a way to cut in line or cheat the system. Believe in what you’re doing! Keep knocking on the doors and you’ll eventually knock on that open door that’s going to change everything.